All I want for Christmas is… an earth shattering orgasm. I know this is not your “typical” traditional gift, but in my opinion…it’s so much better. Did you know that a whopping 61% of Canadian males achieve orgasm regularly, but 75% of Canadian women do NOT? Sadly, women have now accepted this as “normal” and about half of all women expect they will NOT reach an orgasm during sex. It’s been reported that 54% of women don’t feel comfortable enough talking with their partners about how they can have better sex, which is just one of the many reasons we’re not experiencing orgasms. If you’re responsible enough to be having sex, you shouldn’t be scared or ashamed in talking with your partner about your wants and needs. After all, our partners aren’t mind readers. If you’re not guiding them in the right direction, they’ll never learn how to satisfy you.
So…how do we fix this problem? How do we ensure all women reach orgasms as regularly as men? We start a conversation. We start by feeling confident in our own bodies and secure enough in our skin to talk to our partners about sex. 94% of men think it’s important that their partners reach orgasm, so the more you talk with your partner, the higher chances you’ll have in reaching climax. We also need to take control of our sexuality and take the taboo out of purchasing condoms, intimate gels and even vibrators. You shouldn’t feel ashamed or embarrassed when you’re browsing the family planning/ feminine product aisle. Take your time and research which products are going to benefit you and your partner.
Since we can’t rely entirely on our partners to reach orgasms, there are a few things you can do to ensure a better and healthier sex life. Start by doing daily kegel exercises. This will help strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, bringing more blood and oxygen to the area. In return, this will allow you to have more control over your orgasms. To go hand-in-hand with that, pick up a tube of the new Durex Intense Orgasmic Gel. This clitoral stimulating gel instantly helps to intensify my pleasure with a slight cooling, and then warming, almost tingling sensation. It honestly helps to increase pleasure to a somewhat sensitive area.
Don’t always rely on your partner to initiate sex. Flirting is an excellent way to get both of you in the mood without being too forward. In the same way that smiling is contagious, flirting is almost always reciprocal. If you give off sexual energy, you’re almost always guaranteed to get it back. A simple compliment or leaning in and listening to your partner is an excellent way to show how much you care.
Finally, every woman needs her own personal pleasure toy. It all comes back to the fact that men are having more orgasms than women, so we have to take matters into our own hands. Whether it’s a vibrator, pulsator, dildo and everything in between, it’s important to have something that can satisfy you, with or without a partner. The Durex Intense Vibrating Bullet is a small, purple, sensual massager that helps me reach climax easier. Although it may look tiny, don’t let that fool you, its actually quite powerful. Its perfect for both clitoral and all over body stimulation that I can use on my own, when Derek isn’t around, but it can also add in some fun when we are together. Its soft velvet touch arouses and teases my entire body with intense pleasure that leaves me wanting more.
So why is it so important to have regular orgasms, besides the fact they feel amazing? I found it extremely important to my overall physical and mental well-being. With regular orgasms, I find that instantly reduces my stress levels, leaving me feeling happier. While having sex with Derek, I release a hormone called oxytocin, which helps bond us together. The closer I feel to Derek, the stronger our relationship becomes. I’ve also found the more orgasms I have in the winter, the less chances I will get flu-like symptoms…probably because I tend to be sweaty during sex, releasing toxins from my body, keeping me ultra-healthy. It also find it helps with insomnia. I know when I’m feeling restless, I can also rely on sex for a better night’s sleep. These are just a few reasons why I think it’s so important to reach orgasms as much as you can. I’d love to know your secrets in the bedroom for a healthy and active sex life.
“Disclosure: This post was sponsored by Durex, but all opinions on this blog are my own. I also want to thank you for supporting the brands that support my blog.”